I’m single. Sometimes I love it, sometimes I hate it. So this week, I want to take a look at both sides—a celebration of some of the great things about singleness, and also a frank look at some of the not-so-awesome things.
First up, 5 Reasons Being Single Rocks.
1) You get to go where you want, when you want, with who you want.
No arguments because one of you wants to go out for pizza and the other wants Chinese, no phone calls checking in to see if your significant other is okay with you hanging out with a friend after work, no trying to make excuses for not wanting to hang out with your significant other’s friends that you find irritating for no explainable reason. You go where you want, my single friend. When you want, with who you want.
2) Your time is your own.
While this is sometimes used as a way to (rather unfairly, I think) coerce singles into doing a ton of stuff (staying late at work, volunteering for every single ministry at church, babysitting for free every weekend), the reality is that a relationship with a significant other does take a lot of time, so not having one generally means your schedule is a bit more free (or at the very least, you don’t have to coordinate it with someone else). Being single may leave room for endeavors like trying new sports, writing a book, becoming an amateur chef, or…ya know, watching entire TV series in one weekend.
3) You get to eat whatever you want.
This sounds silly, but it’s true. Onions, cilantro, extra-spicy Thai food, and every other food known for leaving a lingering aroma—it’s all fair game. No avoiding peanuts or soy or wheat because your significant other is allergic to them. Go have a hamburger on a bun with onions and a side of the spiciest salsa you can find, then wash it all down with a giant spoonful of peanut butter and maybe a glass of milk. No worries about grossing someone out or accidentally causing an allergic reaction.
4) On holidays, there are no arguments over whose family you’re going to spend time with.
Some of the other reasons here touch on this concept, but it really deserves its own spot on the list. Holidays became a lot more complicated once my siblings had significant others. Figuring out where you were last Christmas, and how that works since you were also with Family A for Thanksgiving, but this year Family B changed their plans…add in children and/or stepfamilies, and it’s an even messier deal. Meanwhile, for the single folk, you just pick a place and go. Holiday plans set.
5) There are major upsides to living alone. (Since I don’t live alone, this is just what I’ve heard–though my roommate and I often run on very different schedules, and therefore it sometimes feel like I’m living alone).
No cleaning up after another person. No arguments over what to watch on TV. No one complaining about your tendency to walk around in pajamas all day and spontaneously break out into dancing. You want to make some fruit friends to keep you company? I hear lemons look nice with a bowtie.
Most of these are a variation of a very basic theme: freedom. To some extent, being single is a lot easier than being in a relationship. There are so many things you don’t have to do when you’re single that you do have to do when you’re in a relationship. When you don’t have one specific person that you’re always looking out for, you do spend more time thinking about yourself. Though this can (but doesn’t have to) result in selfishness, it can be quite freeing and rather enjoyable.
But, like all things, there are certainly downsides of being single as well…check back later this week for 5 Reasons Being Single Sucks.
Til next time…
p.s. If you’re single, what’s your favorite part about it? If you’re no longer single, what WAS your favorite part about it?